The Fourways Farmers Market: Food Review

I love cooking. My most cherished memories are, when on public holidays or on cold winter Saturdays my mom would sit my sister and I down and teach us how to bake. My love for savory cooking started and I can’t believe this, when I mastered how to make stovetop popcorn at around age 9. I burnt it so many times, but I wouldn’t have the heart to throw it away so my sister, my childhood friend Ida and I would eat burnt popcorn. But you know what they say, the difference between the master and the student is that the master has failed more times than the student has even tried (Stephen McCrainie). Now at 24, I consider myself the Goddess of Popcorn. Anyone who knows me knows that I think it’s the actual manner from heaven that was said to rain down on Moses and the Israelites in their years of exodus. 

However, the vendors at the Fourways Farmers Market are on another level. The food there is downright delicious. Its cool that they have vendors from all over the world, if you want authentic Korean BBQ, Jamaican Jerk Chicken or Mexican food cooked by some mamacitas then the farmers market is the place for you.

It’s lovely that its outdoors and that they have live acoustic musicians on stage, playing guitar and singing their sweet songs with their beautiful voices. It’s such a good vibe. Actually, I had one of my best times there since moving to Johannesburg earlier this year. And, of course I had awesome company. 

I examined all that the market had to offer, from top to bottom and I picked my menu of choice. 

  • Jamaican Jerk Chicken (R45)
  • Korean BBQ (R85)
  • Sumting Fresh (R90) 
  • Sumting Fresh Berry Nice (R45)
  • Churros (R20 each)

Jamaican Jerk Chicken

This was honestly one of the most well-prepared chicken dishes I have tasted in my entire life. It blew my mind hole. I think it’s because its seasoning is a spice mix I had never encountered in my life. Although it is braaied and that gives it that familiar smoky flavor. When they served it to me, I was asked if I wanted it to be mild or hot, and me being me said, “I want it to be authentically Jamaican” so however it is normally served in Jamaica will be awesome. The sauce the jerk chicken was dressed in packed a mighty punch as Jamaicans like it hot. However, the parts that didn’t have the sauce, genuinely enjoyed. 

I also had an interesting conversation with Patrick, the Jamaican cook, which was sparked by me asking him if he had encountered Xenophobia from South Africans and unfortunately, he had. Which is a shame because Jamaican culture is beloved here and around the globe. Later, as a farewell, I dropped the corniest of pick-up lines to cheer him up. I asked, “Are you from Jamaica? Coz Jamakin’ me crazy”, we both smiled and waved goodbye. 

Korean BBQ

Now this was super tasty, the Koren Mama put her foot in it, as the African Americans say. In the kitchen, she’s the one. This woman had the sauce. 

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The meal was ultra-crispy deep-fried chicken covered in some kind of ‘sweet chilli sauce’ (as we call it in South Africa) that was sprinkled with sesame seeds. There was also rice with a phenomenal soy-based sauce. The only reason I’m not saying it was ‘out of this world’ is because it was from another part of this world. I also liked how she had cling wrap so you can cover your food if you haven’t finished it in one sitting. It shows that she’s prepared and thinks about her customer’s needs. 

Sumting Fresh 

Now the service at Sumting Fresh was incredible. The staff had phrases they would say when you asked for extra cheese etc. The leader was a charismatic individual, I laughed at their banter while I was waiting for my freshly prepared food. I had the Italian Stallion menu option, which was two crumbed deep-fried chicken schnitzels, on a bagel, with a napolitana sauce, skinny fries and of course, in the sumthing fresh tradition, a generous serving of parmesan cheese. 

At my first bite I thought, is this really worth the instahype? But truth be told later that night I finished my swaggered up chicken burger and the chicken was still crispy. And I tasted that sometimes the familiar tastes recreated with the finest ingredients does offer sumting new. 

Berry Nice

You guessed it, the drink was berry nice. It was a berry flavoured ginger beer with some fresh fruit for garnish and over time the fruit infused with the liquids, increasing its virant flavour. Honestly, and you know your girl is honest, at first did think it was a bit overpriced (R45). However, with South Africa’s current rate of unemployment I was happy to see that the Sumting Fresh staff was about 20 plus. Also as a customer, you are also paying for good service and the Sumting Fresh stall gives you that in abundance. 

Churros Stall

If a donut is just a vetkoek that went to a private school, then a churro is the donuts Mexican exchange student. It’s all deep fried sweetened white dough, although churros are crunchy and have a sweet filling. At the stall they had the options of Nutella, caramel and melkkos which is milk tart filling. What is it about crispy deep-fried foods? Where did we as humans acquire this taste? Where did we go wrong? Is it because it’s just entertaining to eat? However, I didn’t feel guilty about the possibility of gaining weight, instead I found eating my churro entirely pleasurable. #NoGuiltyPleasures

3 Delicious Vegan Recipes

I believe in plant power. That our diet needs to include more plants, the less processed the better. The truth is the current western diet has been linked to cancer and due to globalization South Africans are eating more sausages, bacon, white bread flour, cheese etc. Animal products such as meat and dairy as well have been linked to various diseases like coronary heart disease, diabetes and cancer. Therefore, we could all benefit from eating more fruits and vegetables, it is better for the environment as well. Paying attention to your diet is an essential component of self-love. This will help lead you to your best life, where you feel light and healthy.  

There is a misconception that meat tastes better than vegetables. This isn’t true, some of the tastiest meals I have made are vegan. Vegan means a plant-based a meal that is free of animal products, meat (including seafood), eggs and dairy. I love vegan meals, actually I used to be a full on vegan for 1 whole year. I was so dedicated, but my life went in a direction in which I felt I could not control. This made me unhappy as the plans I had for my life were abruptly halted. I was a girl, interrupted. Therefore, I had to move back home and I stopped caring for myself the way I used to. I stopped cooking for myself and ate what my mother or sister prepared. Now, I am well. I am in a place where I feel joyful, grateful and inspired every day. I did feel guilty about abandoning my plant power ideals, but now I have a more integrated approach where I eat vegan meals, not a strict vegan diet.

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I love vegan meals. There is something homely about vegan food, it’s real food which is unpretentious and comforting. Vegan recipes are tasty, hearty, nourishing and keep you feeling light. I have come across some absolutely delicious vegan recipes that I can share with you. I have a few plant-based culinary creations of my own as I do enjoy cooking and preparing food. Hopefully, I can muster up the courage to transcribe and record a vlog for any who are interested. Until then I have some vegan recipes that I can vouch for. 

1Easy Szechuan Vegetable Stir-Fry by the Kale Sandwich Show

This recipe is the GOAT. Seriously it’s so good. It’s a vegetable stir fry with a peanut Szechuan sauce. This sauce the magic sauce. Szechuan or Sichuan is a Chinese province that is known for cooking food with a lot of chilli pepper and garlic. There is also the beloved Sichuan peppercorn that is used in Chinese cooking. This recipe is for stir fried vegetables and noodles. I just use spaghetti as a substitute for Chinese noodles as they are similar. You can use rice as your starch and yes I have tried this recipe with pap (maize meal) and it was good. But, I prefer the drama of rolling and or slurping the noodles/spaghetti as part of the eating experience. When following recipes don’t get discouraged by not having all the ingredients, just freestyle and look what you have in your kitchen that is similar. Also, google is your friend, search what are the substitutes for certain ingredients. 

To stir fry means to cook food with a little oil on a high temperature, a temperature so high that if you were to leave the pan (or wok) unattended the food would start to burn. Therefore, you have to continuously stir the food to prevent it from burning. What this does is add a delicious smoky flavor to the meal. It also keeps the texture of the vegetables firm to the bite and their colour remains vibrant in comparison to other forms of stove top cooking. Stir Frying also cooks the food quickly.

The Kale Sandwich Show is run by a vegan Canadian couple, they are second generation immigrants from Asia. At a certain stage they ran a restaurant and this recipe was one of the most popular at their restaurant. Di and Raj are lovable, quirky and have great taste in music. 

Ingredients for the Peanut Szechuan sauce 

  • 1 tbsp peanut butter 
  • 1 tbsp Sriracha (hot sauce)
  • 1 tbsp ketchup (In SA we call this Tomato Sauce)
  • 1 tbsp sugar 
  • 1 tbsp apple cider vinegar 
  • 2 tbsp soy sauce 
  • 1 tbsp chili pepper flakes 
  • 1 tbsp ginger finely minced 
  • 4-5 cloves of garlic finely minced 

It is recommended that you use 1 tbsp of the peanut Szechuan sauce per 1 cup (128 grams or 240ml) of vegetables. You can use any vegetables you have in the fridge that you can sauté and will cook through in a short time period. In the video the Di and Raj used “a simple mix of cabbage, bell pepper, carrot, broccoli and onion but feel free to create your own medley and use any vegetables you like.”

Watch the YouTube video to see how it is prepared and follow the steps

The Kale Sandwich Show

2Ratatouille by Laura in the Kitchen

Ratatouille was one on my favourite meals to make as a university student, particularly in 2015. I actually created it without knowing that it was already a well-known French meal. My friend who was vegetarian at the time came over for a visit and I offered her the vegan meal I had prepared for myself as I didn’t know she was coming over. And, she was like yes! I love ratatouille and I was like what? This is my own creation…Here I am thinking this is my own recipe. It was uncanny because it’s known that rosemary and thyme go well together but the rest of the ingredients? How did I replicate the exact recipe? I guess the answer, is my intuition is on fleek and that I know a thing or two about flavour combinations. If I don’t compliment myself, who will? 

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Ratatouille is known as a ‘peasant’ meal, because it is meatless rendering it cost effective. However humble its origins, it is tasty and satisfying. Laura Vitale is one of my trusted youtube cooks and she has taught me a few things about cooking. She is originally from Naples Italy where she helped run her families authentic Italian restaurant, however due to the global financial crash of 2008/9, the restaurant closed down. Then Laura and her husband Joe moved to America in search of opportunities. I enjoy her recipes because they are easy to follow and she explains the reason why she takes certain steps, she educates you about cooking. I grew up watching cooking shows and the celebrity chefs and cooks often don’t tell you why you should do a certain step or why it’s important to do things in a particular order. Whereas Laura explains the basics of boosting flavor and that empowers you to experiment in the kitchen.

Ingredients for Ratatouille

  • 1 Large Onion, peeled and cut into chunks
  • 2 Bell Peppers, seeded and cut into chunks 
  • 1 Medium or 2 Small Eggplants, cut into chunks
  • 4 baby marrows, cut into rounds
  • 1 Head of Garlic, peeled and left whole
  • About 6 Tbsp of Olive Oil
  • 1 Tsp of Fresh Thyme, Chopped
  • 1 Tsp of Fresh Rosemary, chopped
  • 4 Tomatoes, cut into chunks
  • Salt and Pepper to taste
  • ½ cup (64g) of Fresh Chopped Basil

Click here for Laura Vitale’s Ratatouille Recipe and meal preparation steps

Watch her prepare this delicious vegan creation in the YouTube video below

Laura in the Kitchen

3Simple Russian Zucchini Spread- The Kale Sandwich Show

Part of the hassle of going vegan or trying to eat healthier in general is that we have become so accustomed to eating sandwiches on the go or meals that are quick to prepare. We don’t want to spend too much time thinking about what we are going to eat. Particularly when you are hungry, you just eat what you grew up eating and what’s in the kitchen/fridge. Therefore, what we eat is habitual, breaking this habit is the difficult part of eating healthy because now when you buy groceries you have to read the labels and plan different meals that are healthier, more alkaline and plant-based. 

The vegan sandwich/toast spread options are avocado, peanut butter with or without sliced banana, hummus (Middle Eastern chickpea spread), sun-dried tomato pesto and Melitzanosalta (Greek eggplant spread), the last three are usually found in the same section in the grocery stores of Spar or Pick and Pay. You can also use these as dips to snack on your veggies or crackers if you are alone or entertaining friends. I offer you an additional plant-based spread to add to your arsenal of healthy spreads and it is flavourful indeed. When eating sandwiches I suggest making them more nutritious by adding sliced cucumber, fresh tomato and green leaves like lettuce, rocket or baby spinach. Avoid iceberg lettuce because its not nutrient dense. This also provides a crunch to the sandwich making the eating experience more pleasurable. You can also fry up some mushrooms in a little oil and seasoning and you have yourself an epic sandwich. 

Ingredients for Zucchini Spread

Zucchini is a squash and is also known as Marrow or Courgette. In my experience in South Africa it’s easier to find Baby Marrow.

  • 1 med zucchini 
  • 1 med carrot 
  • 1 med onion
  • 2-3 cloves of garlic
  • 2-3 med tomatoes
  • dillweed or any herbs you like (bay leaf, rosemary, thyme) 
  • salt and pepper to taste (In the video they used about 1/2 tsp salt, 1/4 tsp pepper) 
  • 2 tbsp olive oil

“Slice zucchini and carrot into 1/2 cm rounds. Thinly slice onion. Roughly mince garlic. Cut tomatoes in half. Mix zucchini, carrot, onion and garlic with oil, herbs and salt & pepper in an oven safe dish. Top with tomatoes cut side down and bake at 400 degrees fahrenheit (200 degrees celsius) for about 1 hour or until veggies are soft when pierced with a fork. Cool for 20 minutes before blending (it is very hot so be careful). Blend to desired consistency and store in an airtight container or jar for up to a week in the fridge. Enjoy!”

The Kale Sandwich Show

Watch the Vlog below to see how it is made

The Kale Sandwich Show

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6 Things We Loved About Beyoncé on Netflix

Written By Khanyisile Msebenzi

It’s not like we hadn’t watched Beyoncé’s performance at Coachella online last year already, seeing it again was like walking into feminist heaven!

Going into the film I thought it was a mostly behind the scenes film, but it actually was mostly the concert, this was the only disappointment I had with the film. In this world of celebrity over exposure, no one can blame us for wanting to know more about Beyoncé’s daily life and thinking. But it did give enough insight to satiate curiosities for a week or so. But, I can definitely say, this film made me fall more in love with Beyonce. I didn’t think it was possible, and so I promote myself as head of the Beyhive in my circle of friends.

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1 I loved how Beyonce unreservedly shared about the difficulties she experienced during her pregnancy. Maternal health, especially black woman maternal health has come into the spotlight lately in the USA because a much higher percentage of black women die of complications during pregnancy compared to other races. In Africa the statistics are even worse with many countries having healthcare systems that aren’t equipped to properly diagnose or treat pregnancy complications like preeclampsia fast enough. There are more conditions that lead to either the death of a baby or the mother. Beyonce had to have an emergency c-section to save her life and that of her twins.

2 Beyonce works hard for her body! She was clearly unfit and had gained almost twice her weight during pregnancy. She shows us how she struggles to get fit and strong again and also shares how scared she was she would never be the same. She went on a strict diet, eliminated all carbohydrates and had a hectic work out regime. One of my favourite parts is when she fits into one of the costumes she used to wear before pregnancy and she calls Jay Z to share the news and he is really excited for her and reacts with the enthusiasm we expect from our girlfriends who understand the stress of trying to lose weight and fit into old clothes. Guys, learn from Jay Z! If it matters to us and it stresses us, even if you think it is trivial, act as though you are just as invested as we are, lol!

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3 The first film Beyonce did was to give us a peak into her life as she had taken time off to raise Blue Ivy and to get some much deserved rest. This film had a clear message, her Coachella performance was a message, it was a celebration of black culture and black history, owning it without being ashamed. She says she couldn’t believe she was the first black woman to headline such a big and international concert, and practically shamed the organizers that it took them so long when black culture influences America and the world so much. Her being inspired by what goes on at Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCU) made me wish we had the same culture here. But instead, in South Africa black colleges and universities are seen as offering inferior quality of education and overall experience. Perhaps our black elite can start contributing to these and build institutions of excellence that take pride in being black instead of having all of us clamoring to get into the Wits, Stellenboschs and UCTs. HBCUs in the USA are mainly funded by its black alumni.

Homecoming Poster

4 Beyonce used her Coachella performance to celebrate every woman. She had women of all shapes and sizes on that stage and she did it purposefully too. One of the women interviewed in the film is a sister from Nigeria who is now American and she was still in disbelief that she was chosen to participate in the show for Beyonce. Beyonce set out to tell us ladies that we are beautiful as we are, as unique as we are no matter how thick, or thin, or tall. No matter our skin tone or the texture of our hair, she didn’t seek to find ‘clones’ of herself, we all could see ourselves on that stage. And importantly celebrate all black peoples not just African Americans.

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5 My biggest learning was this -> Beyonce was involved in every part of planning her Coachella performance. She was involved in the choosing of everything from the design of the stage, materials used to make costumes, choreography and the placement of the smallest thing! That’s a big job! Whilst still working on her own fitness, performance, breastfeeding and caring for her babies at the same damn time! Not only that, she was also ensuring that the performance looks good live on stage as well as in video. There was a time when most of the team thought they had nailed the performance but she wasn’t happy with how it translates on video. She chose every single dancer and every single artist and performer. That is a Girl Boss, she didn’t outsource a single part of this, she took full control. Often in our lives or at school or at work we leave something important to us in the hands of somebody else and when they drop the ball we blame them. We are quick to blame others. There is nothing that we should ever feel we don’t have control over, not even the financing of our university fees, we can always find a way.

6 Beyonce brought on her sister Solange and her sisters from Destiny’s Child, she didn’t have to. Nobody expected her to and nobody would have crucified her or judged her if she hadn’t brought them on. Kelly Rowland and Michelle Williams wouldn’t have blamed her if she didn’t include them in her show. Destiny’s Child has been ‘over’ for years, and yet she still brings them onto key and big shows, she did the same with her big Super Bowl Show. She walks the talk, that we can all shine, she doesn’t try to shine alone. As women this is very important, as we fight for equality we need to do so together and pull each other up. You don’t lose anything by helping another woman.

Beyoncé’s Coachella performance was as impactful on the world’s consciousness as her Super Bowl performance. Which also had a strong message about black pride, black unity and a call to action around Black Lives Matter.

Beyonce is an artist using her celebrity to influence the world for the better and she’s doing this proudly as a black woman.

Watch the Official Homecoming Trailer Here

The Living Room- Girl Boss Food Review

Your girl went to Living Room in Maboneng to taste the food and feel the atmosphere. The Maboneng Precinct is a trendy area in the Johannesburg CBD. Maboneng means ‘place of light’ in seSetho and the first time I went there I thought this is the South Africa the enlightened Nelson Mandela envisioned in his 46664 prison cell in Robben Island.

Photo by Simi Gumede

It’s a place where the cool people gather on weekends. Although I am new to Joburg I am aware there is unfortunately glaring inequality like many other places in South Africa.

I guess the question is, did I feel alive in the living room? And the answer is yes, it’s a roof top café that has a lot of plant life. There is something calming about seeing all the green of the plants, it’s beautiful. It’s actually more of an event venue but when they’re not hosting a private event. The place is open as a restaurant from 11am-10pm from Wednesday to Friday. Therefore, one should check the online calendar if planning on going there on Saturday or Sunday as they be hosting a private function. If not then they have Djs come through on weekends and there is a chilled vibe. The music is that music that hipsters listen to that we really can’t name the genre unless you’re a music head. I like to think of it as ‘post-genre’ music, lol.

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Lets Talk About The Food

I shared the food with my sister as there is no way I could eat all of it by my selfie.

For starters I ordered from the Gourmet Tapas section of the menu

I got the SAFA Classic- R30. Which is two small crispy beef, veg spaghetti and pickled cucumber spring rolls served with peppadew cream cheese dip. The spring rolls were crispy and the filling tasted of crispy beef and veg. Crispy beef is basically browned beef, when you fry it on a high temperature and that brown seal forms. That’s the flavorful part and it tasted mostly of that. It had simple yet effective taste but I’m was left feeling, where are the aromatics?

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I also got the Dimsum Yum- R40. Which was 4 steamed Asian Pastries with coriander chicken filling. It was delicious! I Highly recommend this as a starter. The chicken filling was tender and flavorful with coriander and ginger. The dipping sauce tasted of soy, sesame oil, chilli and there sweetness to it. It was lovely. I love the taste of soy sauce there was a time where I would put soy in all my food. And, every time I did I would say, “it’s time for my boy, soy”, so soy is my homeboy.

Photo by Simi Gumede

The mains we got was the Ocean Breeze- R115. Which is fresh mussels steamed in white wine and garlic. Finished in either a mussel broth or a yellow Thai coconut curry. Served with two fresh mini rolls. It was also very tasty. The mussels were fresh and not overpowering. I’m not a fan of mussels as I think they taste too much of the sea. But I think the ones I have had in the past were not fresh. These fresh ones, were the ones, damn, it was so good. It was creamy as the sauce base was coconut cream, there was the taste of garlic, coriander, lemon and lemon grass. I enjoyed it and I am converted. I am now a believer of mussels. However, I wished they had been served with noodles not bread rolls as you just want to slurp all the soupy goodness.

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We also got the Stripped- R140. Which is a Grilled Sirloin (250g) steak cut into strips served with a tangy mustard cream and french fries or a small salad. I got fries of course, as I haven’t out grown potato chips yet. I think if there was ever a marker of adulthood it would be when you get the small salad instead of fries. That’s when I’ll know I’m grown AF, I don’t play.

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I asked for the steak to be medium and I got what I asked for. It tasted of chargrilled beef and herbs. The mustard cream was tasty. I guess it depends on how you like your food. Some people want their meat to taste like meat and everything else must enhance that natural flavor of the meat. Whereas I like my food to taste of meat and the seasoning.

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For desert, we wanted the Peachy -R45. It is a glass jar filled with grilled peach, ginger cookie crumble, lemon and mint curd. Topped with ice cream but unfortunately it wasn’t available. So, we shared the Yes Please -R45, it was a Deep-Fried Bar One with Salted Caramel. It was yummy for sure. The batter was little crispy and warm. I could taste the batter also had lemon juice in the dough making it balanced and not overwhelmingly sweet. The salted caramel tasted lush but the texture was grainy as some of the sugar was still crystallized and there wasn’t enough of it, sadly. 

All in all, I really enjoyed the living room. I even danced a little with some happy strangers. I definitely recommend the spot, but I wish the music was more distinctively South African. So I can feel I am really living the post-apartheid South African dream.

Girl Boss Rating: 4/5

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Love Lives Here- Girl Boss Movie Review

Genre: Romantic comedy

Starring: Thando Thabethe, Lungile Radu, Zola Nombona, Andile Gumbi, Motlasti Mafatshe, Nomalanga Shozi and Nkanyiso Bhengu

Length: 1h 53 min

Director: Norman Maake

Age rating: 16

Girl Boss Rating: 8/10

I’m really loving the South African movies that are being created these days. Growing up there were not many South African movies that would show in the Cinema. However in recent times, if you go to the cinema, you may find a South African movie available to watch, which is great.

Love lives here is a South African romantic comedy. It is set in Durban and there are numerous shots of the coast line, the ocean and the harbor. Being set in Durban, the culture of the characters is isiZulu. Although, they speak mainly English. The music is also mostly South African, which is cool. I like the embracing of South African art.

Official Movie Poster For Love Lives Here

The movie follows a romantic novelist played by Thando Thabethe. Although she is a career woman she wants to get married and have a family. She is progressive but also has traditional values. She is the ideal modern makoti. But, her boyfriend whom she has been dating for 3 years, doesn’t seem interested in the same family values she has. Her well to do boyfriend is played by Andile Gumbi. Who, talks down to her and is mean. The movie starts with Zinhle (Thando Thabethe) coming home early from a writer’s conference and surprises her boyfriend as it is their 3 year anniversary. Needless to say, she finds that he isn’t alone in his house. They break up.

She then tries to continue living her life although she is heartbroken. She links up with her girlfriends and goes to a party where she meets an up and coming photographer. When, on the dance floor a guy gets handsy and tries to grab her butt. She then manages to catch his hand and twist it behind his back in a self-defense physical combat move, forcing him to apologies. The photographer, played by Lungile Radu goes to intervene on her behalf, but she is able to defend herself and has the situation handled.

Scene from the local movie Love Lives Here

After the initial meeting he starts to pursues her. At first, she’s not that interested. Although, she gives him her number. He persists by texting and calling her, he even goes jogging on the same beachfront she jogs at. As, he saw her location pin on social media. She tells him its ‘stalker vibes’ jokingly and doesn’t pay much attention to him because she’s not sure if she can trust him as she’s recently been burned in an intimate relationship. Eventually he wins her affection. The two fall in love and when they make love for the first time, he goes down on her. When this happened, I thought whoohoo, viva la female orgasm! Look at him making sure his partner is sexually satisfied. That’s how you know this guy, is not a typical guy. He is progressive.

The story of the movie is great. I can really go on and tell you everything but I don’t want to spoil and twists and turns for you. The message of the movie is, love is about happiness. Love lives in the heart, be with a partner who you respects you and makes you happy. Don’t date/marry someone just for social and economic progression. Be with someone who actually loves you for who you are on the inside.

South African Actor Motlatsi Mofatshe in the movie Love Lives Here

The movie is actually funny and romantic. The dynamic between the girlfriends is enjoyable. There’s the one friend whose going through a bitter divorce and the other who is a sex positive young woman, she is free with her sexuality. This is great because it’s her body, her choice but I did think okay, there needs to be a mention of condoms here. There are sex scenes in the movie and not one mention of protection or birth control and I just felt there was a teaching opportunity missed. It is also unrealistic as there should always be the when were you last tested for HIV, condom, birth control, contraception’s, discussion.

All in all, I enjoyed the movie more than I thought I would. I found it relevant as people my age are getting married now, and it is a topic that is pertinent for young career woman. What kind of partner do you want to create a life with? Do you even want to get married? When you get married, if it is to a man, what gender roles are you going to fulfill? For example, in the movie when the character Andile Gumbi plays, finishes his beer, he says “babe my beer is empty”. As if Thando Thabethe’s character must drop everything and go fetch him a cold beer. Would I go fetch the beer in a relationship? These are the questions we need to negotiate when settling down in a modern South African relationship.

Watch the official trailer here

Love Lives Here Official Trailer